Hello Sweet Cheer: Modest is Hottest

6.28.2012

Modest is Hottest

Yep.. I'm gonna talk about modesty.

(the pictures in this post are strictly for comic relief and have nothing to do with the topic, enjoy!)

For two reasons…

1) Modesty is an active part of day to day life as a young woman striving to be more like Christ.
2) The Bible is clear about FLEEING from sexual sin. (1 Corinthians 6:18)

My dog Zoe. Basking in the sunshine.

     Everyday I walk on this Earth in hopes of bringing glory to God in who I am.  Who I am.  That means, the things I say, the thoughts I think, the actions I take and the way I dress.  That's not an exhaustive list but it's what I want to focus on.  If who I am is bringing glory to God than I am acting, dressing, speaking and thinking in a way that not only honors God but in a way that might spur others on to honor Him in their lives.  Are you with me?  If that is what I live to do, bring honor and glory to God, than the way I dress myself IS and MUST be important.
     It is SO incredibly easy to wake up in the morning, dress myself in a way that I KNOW guys will want to see, and walk around all day talking about how I live for Christ.  In reality though, that's classic case of talking the talk without walking the walk.

Jamie from One Tree Hill. Dressed up all silly-like.

     I was at J&B Coffee a few days ago, a local coffee shop in town, studying for a test.  I was sitting at a table right across from two college aged guys.  At one point while I was there, I looked up and saw a young girl (late high school/early college aged) who was beautiful and fit, walk in to the shop.  She was wearing a t-shirt and a pair of very short white shorts.  It's summer so she was pretty tan and it's hot outside so she was wearing shorts.  The second she walked up to the door, not even inside yet, the guys were already staring at her.  Once inside, their eyes followed her body from the door to the coffee bar, and back out the door.  Without a single word, she caught the FULL attention of these guys.  Now, I'm not here to shake my finger and tell you to start wearing more turtle necks.  I'm also not here to say that men are pigs.  That's simply not going to encourage anyone.

And this is just funny. #wisdomteethprobz

     The point I want to make is that as much as we talk about modesty, how it's important and that we need to look out for our brothers in the way we dress ourselves, many MANY times I think we don't believe that.  Or maybe we just forget it.  I wanted to share that story because it illustrates just how much control women have over mens eyes when we dress in a way that draws attention to things only designed for our husbands to see.  Honestly, I struggle with this too!  Some days I just want to show off my body.  Some people would say, "If you got it, flaunt it." or "You're an independent young woman and you should be able to dress however you want!".  But in reality, that is an incredibly selfish way of thinking.  If you desire to be respected you must first respect yourself.  When guys see girls dressed provocatively, I can bet they aren't thinking, "...what an intelligent, respectable young woman…" Most likely they're thinking, "…I know what she's looking for…"  Ladies, when we go out dressed to attract eyes to our bodies, we send a message that we are looking for something.  We send a message that we aren't fulfilled in our relationship with Christ and that we desire fulfillment from men.

And this is for the sake of #throwbackthursday

     I could go on for a long time.  But I would rather not bore you.  My challenge to you is this, be mindful of the clothes you wear and the way you wear them.  Take a step back and do some observing.  You'll see what I saw that day in the coffee shop.  We as women need to think first of the people who will see us dressed the way we are.  Think of the future wives of the men who might look at your body.  Think of your future husband, whose belongings have been displayed to the world.  It might not be very fun to wear a one piece now, but I promise your husband will thank you one day for being set apart.

And this too.

     I hope I didn't bring anyone down with this!  If you've made mistakes in your past or haven't lived modestly before, please know that you can be forgiven and start new in Christ.  It's never been more appropriate than now to say, better late than never!  I make mistakes daily and we are never going to be perfect, but with Jesus we can do better!

Peace & blessings,

Mere


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