Hello Sweet Cheer: To Be a Praying Wife


To Be a Praying Wife

Mama Solitude

It's almost midnight. The entire house is sleeping but me. And I actually really like it. I like the silence and the time I have to allow my mind to focus solely on Jesus. I don't even feel like I'm losing rest because I'm recharging my soul through prayer, writing and scripture. As a wife and a mom, sometimes this is the only time I have completely to myself. And I'm totally okay with that!

When my husband fell asleep and I was wide awake, I grabbed my phone and rolled out of bed. I shut the bedroom door behind me and got comfortable on the couch. And now I sit, in solitude, with the freedom to use this time for anything. And while all I really want to do is watch YouTube videos or scroll Facebook or look up recipes...I find myself desiring more than that. I find myself realizing that this is the time God has carved out for me to commune with Him.

The Lord has taught me much over the last (almost) two years of marriage. I've learned how to give up my desires and preferences in service to my husband, I've learned to choose to love him even when I don't want to, I've learned to listen well. I could go on forever but by far the most important thing I've learned since being married is to be a praying wife. My heart's desire is to lift up my husband to the Lord!

Being a Praying Wife

I am my husband's support. I am there to encourage, uplift and help. My love for him plays out in many ways, but I would argue that my prayers for him are the most impactful way I can show my love for him. To describe the importance of wives praying fervently for their husbands is difficult. There is so much I could say and too much to cover in one blog post. I think though that the following summarizes well what my heart wants to convey. This is an excerpt from the book, The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian:
"First of all, let me make it perfectly clear that the power of a praying wife is not a means of gaining control over your husband, so don’t get your hopes up! In fact, it is quite the opposite. It’s laying down all claim to power in and of yourself, and relying on God’s power to transform you, your husband, your circumstances, and your marriage. This power is not given to wield like a weapon in order to beat back an unruly beast. It’s a gentle tool of restoration appropriated through the prayers of a wife who longs to do right more than be right, and to give life more than get even. It’s a way to invite God’s power into your husband’s life for his greatest blessing, which is ultimately yours, too."
But how?

Okay, so I've shared why it's important to pray for your husband, so how do we as wives and some of us busy, tired mamas, live that out practically? How do we pray constantly and serve humbly in the midst of life and all that comes with it. Here are three things that I think are helpful in becoming a praying wife:

RESERVE TIME FOR PRAYER // You can't pray for your husband if you don't set aside specific time to get before Jesus! It may seem obvious but it has to be said: You MUST set aside time every single day to commune with the Lord.

TAKE NOTES // I find that when Ryan and I are talking through things, I need to listen well and jot down the things he is sharing. I need to hear what he is struggling with, what things he is concerned about and where he is rejoicing! And then later on when I'm spending time lifting him up to Jesus, I'm able to refer to those specific things we've talked about.

SERVE THE MESS OUT OF HIM // When I serve my husband, whether he notices, thanks me, or cares at all, I feel closer to my Savior! It's crazy how the Lord works when we obey Him. The times that I truly serve Ryan out of obedience, joy, and love for Christ (instead of for personal gain or my own good track record) - are the times that I feel closest to Jesus. And I don't know about you but the closer I am to Jesus, the more of a prayer warrior I am!

Moral of the story: PRAY for your husband! And pray diligently. You are called to it. You committed to it when you married him. I hope this is helpful and encouraging!

xoxo || meredith holguin

"This at last is bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh" 
Genesis 2:23a


  1. Love this so much! What a sweet reminder. I love praying for my husband as well as my entire family. Its like free counseling �� So therapeutic and refreshing.